Do you ever feel small and insignificant? I do. I’ve felt like that, a lot. Finding someone to prove me wrong was often like finding the proverbial “needle in the haystack.” The search for significance sends us all looking for approval, value, purpose and love. Where can we find what we so desperately need?
The search for significance & The Voices
We all hear voices, whether we want to admit it, or not. Sometimes the voice becomes our inner critic, passing judgment, relentlessly. Her voice can be heard above all others:
- “You did it again!”
- “Why couldn’t you keep your mouth shut?”
- “You’re so stupid!”
- “You’re not ________”
The Inner Critic has plenty of fodder for condemnation, right? Past failures speak loudly. Seeking to be found “good enough,” we check the measuring stick. Most often, we fall below “acceptable.”
Looking inside for significance doesn’t seem reliable.
The search for significance from others
We can always find a reason to feel small when we look to others for our worth. I observe body language, listen for affirming words, agreement and acceptance. Do you?
“She looked at my funny. What did she mean by that? I think she hates me.”
We can’t look to others to find our significance. No one holds the divine measuring stick.
Looking outside for significance doesn’t seem reliable.
Discovering my Creator’s thoughts of me
He saw my humble beginning.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!” Psalm 139:13-17
He knows my past.
“For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing.” Romans 7:18, 19
He sees me in my present. He accepts and loves me unconditionally.
“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus…”
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. He who believes in Him is not judged; he who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.”Romans 8:1, John 3:16-18
He has good plans for my future.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
When I feel small, I remember: His estimation of me is the only opinion that matters. He holds the divine measuring stick. He looks at me through the lens of love because of His Son, who died for me, as me.
This good news is Infinitely Beyond my wildest expectations.
He loves you, too. His Son died for you. Your search for significance can end there. It’s no small discovery when you find that you are loved and accepted unconditionally, that your life has extreme value and purpose.
Only looking up for significance IS reliable.
The search for significance found in our Creator feels just right.